MOM’S GATHERING

Our Mom’s Who Lost Children/ Good Grief came together again this past February, and we had a delightful weekend of sharing with each other. Our main highlight was a trip out to Botony Bay and a special tour of that pristine area by Bess Kellett who is a representative of the parks area there. We each wrote our child’s name in the sand and then took pictures of it to remember the day by! There is no more pristine place on the earth, I don’t believe. It produced healing all by itself. Of course we had to stop by the Interpretive Center, to see Denise and her delightful squirrel. Last I checked it had outgrown her pocket, but it will still run to her from the outside woods! Isn’t that funny? Tear Soup was a wonderful DVD and spoke to our hearts. Only another Mom can understand what someone is going through when you give back a child to God…..It hurts!
The holidays coming up will be hard, but other family members need to still celebrate. Try celebrating the life of your child with them by establishing a memorial on a par]k bench or at a church or library. Somewhere that other folks might enjoy and remember them too. It makes it so much easier in the long run. After fourteen years, I am seeing how much the Fathers and other family members have been left out in this healing process, so God has placed this on my heart as my next big mission.
Let’s help our families heal now, Mom’s! Can’t wait to see you in October this fall, ladies!
I love you all…….Becky

2 comments July 31, 2010

FEBRUARY GATHERING

This coming February will find many new Mom’s coming together at Edisto again. We have found that our ladies are growing in numbers and we will have to figure future meeting places. Our main goal is to help the healing process along, by sharing thoughts and feelings. Each one enjoys sharing what has helped them heal. One wonderful book and DVD is “Tear Soup.”

I don’t know that I have seen a book, or DVD that deals with grief in a more beautiful way, than this book does. Grandy shares the exact feelings that so many of us go through on a daily basis. Hopefully, Maybelle and Arnette will come back over for lunch on Saturday, when Sarhi will fix her wonderful Cuban Sandwhiches again! We plan a day trip out to Botony Bay, and the guide there said she would like to give us a tour. …….Woo Hoo! Some of the girls aren’t ready to come, just yet, but we will be here, when they do come. These friendships are born out of pain and anguish, but God has molded us together and bonded each of us together for eternity.

Becky

1 comment January 25, 2010

OUR SEPTEMBER SONG

September 25;26,and 27th,found our Mom’s coming together at Edisto again.We expected close to twenty,but ended up with closer to 11. Jennifer;Charlotte;Leslie;Liz;Nellah;Sarhi;Linda;Maybelle,Arnette;& Della,and Becky.Some of our regulars were attending other functions this weekend,and we missed them, but we did have fun.Debbi Covington fixed me a wonderful Poppy Seed Chicken Casserole,for Friday night,and I fixed a salad and dessert,for when they all came in.Jenn fixed a wonderful sausage casserole for Saturday morning. Nellah brought yummy fruit,and Sarhi fixed her wonderful Cuban sandwhiches for lunch.Three of the ladies drove over from Beaufort just for lunch on Saturday,and one had driven over from Charleston.We only had a short time frame with these ladies,for sharing,so we had to make our time count.Sunday,Charlotte fixed Sean’s Blueberry Buckle again, but gave us a sugar free one, to go along with a regular “SUGAR” one! Wonderful Charlotte! We spent some time in devotions and talking on Sunday and then sadly did a lot of hugging and had a farewell prayer before they hit the road!
‘Til February ladies!
We came away,knowing that principles needed to be established for future weekends.We know that that certain things are a given about these weekends.We always want to honor our Lord and our children….always! We want to hold fast to our belief’s in all things too.Personally,I wish I could help everyone in the whole world, but I can’t because I am just one person, and I am fallible,and I make so many mistakes. I have goals for these weekends, and not everyone wants the same goals that I have.Plus,I don’t have but so much room in the house.God gave me a vision for this back in 2003,and that’s as far as I’m to go with it.Those who have benefited from these weekends are an extension of what we learn, and can go out and help others in any way they can.I choose to do it this way.
We discussed that it was important for us to have time for Mom’s to share with each other in their own way,and when they want too, but it’s also important to have a more structured time with all of us.In setting this up,the core group feels that the main thing is to keep the discusion part open for the healing and sharing to take place,and let the enjoyment of our free time,fall into place when and if it can.
We had hoped to walk out to Botony Bay on Saturday, but it was closed for two weeks,for a deer hunt…..Maybe in February!
There were some neat things shared and some issues that needed to be discussed.This has been a wonderful weekend,and I can’t believe it has been 5 years since our first weekend!
Nellah ended up having her blood pressure taken at the Fire Station, so that concerned us,but that was an experience we will have to share on another blog!
Becky

1 comment September 28, 2009

Together

September 25th through the 27th,2009,finds some new Mom’s arriving at the Edisto beach house.Infact, since last we met, we have added several new Mom’s…..
Arnette;Maybelle;Michelle;Jan;Candy; Sandy;Laurence;Caroline;Karen;Nancy….
So many Mom’s with broken hearts, but this is a time when we come together and heal and share our hurts and pain.It is a beautiful weekend together.I found a wonderful place on Botony Bay,where I hope we can go and visit.It is a stretch of beach that is totally uninhabited and deserted…..Absolutely breathtaking!Looking forward to this fall.

1 comment July 24, 2009

COMING TOGETHER

This September 26th finds our “MOM”‘S coming together the week after  my daughter will be getting married. I know I will be exhausted,but as always,I so look forward to this time together.We will come together on Friday afternoon, and have lunch at the Main’s Market, where “Ms Etta”, and “Ms Mary” will fix the best Gullah cooking you ever “dun et”! However,I always get her Tarragon Chicken Salad Wrap,because it is unbeatable! This is such a grand meeting place when Leslie;Charlotte;Liz;Ramelle, and I get together.If Nellah and Jenn are up for it, the meeting gets even better! Around supper,the  rest of the Mom’s(Addison;Sandy;Sandy W.;Maryann;Cricket;Della;Evelyn;…and others my brain won’t recall) will start bringing their things in, and always the very first thing will be the pictures of their children that have gone on Home to the Lord.Liz will put her things on the porch and hugs will go everywhere around the room.It is such an expression of God’s love for these Mom’s as “each one,meets one”.I think Will Rogers said it right, when he said “I never met a man I didn’t like”, and it’s surely the truth, when you met these Mom’s.As far as we were concerned our children went Home, way too soon….. To God, these precious ones, were right on time! When we trust in Him, we understand this…. When we do it together, He provides the comfort and the way to understand this. It’s much easier this way,too.Hope some of you Mom’s will join us this fall, or start your own time together…….Honor your children, while  giving God the Glory.This weekend does it all!

Becky

2 comments July 14, 2008

MARCH MOM’S MEET

This March, found our very first Mom of a girl,joining us! Sarhi joined us, and fixed Cuban Sandwhiches for our Friday night supper, and boy did she win my heart! She is a delight, as all these Mom’s are…..Ramelle;Jennifer;Leslie;Nellah;Charlotte,and Sarhi joined me at the beach house this past time.We missed  MJ and Nancy, and hopefully we will see them in September, along with having LaVonne come back, as well. We are hoping Alice,Elaine and Carolyn will join us this coming September too. The weather was wonderful, and we managed to eat a good bit, and enjoy the sun!  We have found that this place is a safe place to come together and heal….. Jenn brought us book marks she had made……Thanks Jenn! To the new Mom’s who are just now going through somnething like this, and have just lost a child…..take comfort in knowing that there are other Mom’s who know how you feel.It hurts! We know that, but you will make it through.God holds His children close……Keep in touch!……..Becky

Add a comment April 22, 2008

COME JOIN US!

This March finds us coming together at the beach,once again,only we will be adding to our numbers this year. We have five new Mom’s coming in this March, and maybe more.This will be a rough year, for several of them too, because it will be their very first year without that special person in their home.This will be hard, as it is for anyone, but the help and friendships developed here at the beach enable us to maintain our sanity , throughout the years to come.It’s all because of the way God works through each of us, during this time we are together. There is a bond that developes, that can’t be broken.When you lose a child, nothing in your life is the same.You don’t ever look at things the same way again…..Yes, there is grief, but ours is good grief!  We have lost our children, but for a brief time, because we have the assurance that we will see them again, and that’s why the grief is good!

Becky

1 comment February 20, 2008

I’M GRIEVING,THANK YOU

I hope these thoughts will help you,once again, as they came from my weekend from my Moms Who Lost Children, a few weeks back……

“I’m grieving,thank you!”These are the words you can say when asked how you are doing,Mom’s!
Our boys would not come back to us after being at the feet of Jesus(and that’s hard for a Mom to take folks!)
Just like Jesus would not choose to come back here with us after being in Heaven, as fully God, and fully man. Only when He returns to bring us back with Him….. Woo Hoo!
What wonderful words of cherished wisdom from these Mom’s. Listening to these ladies today, was like listening to my Lord speak through the hearts of the brokenhearted……only filled with wisdom!
Some beautiful tidbits given to the average person.
It’s not something we “get over”…….It’s something we go through, and it may take us a little longer than what you might think it should.
That’s okay,folks!
God made us that way, and we will heal, when He is ready for us too!
Becky

Add a comment November 24, 2007

WELCOME THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS

Welcome to our new Mom’s who have come on board, during this rough time of year. This time of year, when we miss our children so very much, and don’t feel like celebrating. Remember though, that,even our Lord told us to “do this in remembrance of me”, so He too, thought that remembering was special to do, so we need to do those special things, that we always did, when our children were here. Be kind to yourself this holiday season, and celebrate the glory of your very dear and special child! You are loved!….Becky

Add a comment November 24, 2007

Welcome

Welcome to our new weblog. This is the first post and we are just getting started. I look forward to this being a blessing to all of our moms.

3 comments October 16, 2007